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I’m a self-proclaimed International Playboy. Whenever I say that to people they automatically think “playa”, “womanizer”, “gigolo” etc. It’s funny to me how unimaginative we are at times as human beings. I guess we forget there are infinitely more uses for a hammer than just smashing nails.
I met a woman once, with whom I had an off-on relationship for a couple of years. Over our first dinner together, she asked me what I was looking for in relation to her.
How we met is another story and song not yet written. Man, let me tell ya she was beautiful! Anyway, I took a liking to her because as soon as she found out I wrote lyric poetry, she asked to read some. She spent the next half hour reading my manuscript... on my phone. That was intriguing to me. I had to get to know her, so I asked her out to dinner.
I knew exactly what I was looking for. I said, “I want a mutually exclusive emotional relationship that is non-exclusive along with physical discourse... off course!” “Hmmm..." she chuckled, "sounds good but what does that even mean?”
I gave her the whole International Playboy spiel (a disclaimer I make at the onset of all of my intimate relations). I meticulously expressed how in my experience, encounters like ours can be way more than casual, yet way less than marriage and still have, if not more so the kind of life-changing chemistry and fireworks that both afford. That said, I suggested we explore this mutual interest we shared. Someone once said to me, “everyone you meet in life has something for you, and you for them. Make sure you get yours as you give them what is theirs.”
Needless to say, she went along with it. Our relationship existed in neverland. Even our fights were fun. She once said it was the most polite relationship she'd ever been in. Haha... It was magical, a protracted honeymoon without the marriage. We both knew it would grow into nothing more. Yet we shared in that brief period a connection that matured us spiritually and emotionally, I like to think. My encounter with her was akin to finding an oasis in the desert while dying of thirst. The indelible impact it has had on me has made me more present and self-aware, which, carries over into all my other relationships, intimate and otherwise.
This week’s song Desert Rendezvous is my attempt to capture the bliss and euphoria of that encounter. Here’s a song for you Love, we made beautiful music together didn't we? You know who you are!